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The first thing that comes to peoples mind when they hear hypnosis is swinging of a chain and putting people into a trance. But hypnosis is a lot more than that presently it is used for medical purposes like for stop smoking and to relieve anxiety. Conversational hypnosis on the other hand is the use of conversations and suggestions to get people to do what you want. Igor ledochowski a master hypnotist has created the power of conversational hypnosis course where he claims he would show anyone an amazing secret that lets you put people under your control quickly and easily and get them to do what you want. Much has been said about this course but here is a review of what to expect from it.

The course is made of 12 main audio sessions, A 629 page manual including full Transcripts of every session, cheat sheets that help to speed up your understanding of how to use hypnosis and 4 advanced bonus sessions to give you even more hypnotic power when you need it. Some of the things the course covers include how to connect with people so that they trust you and immediately like you, how to approach a complete stranger and make them feel like they know you and like you, how to connect with anyone and create a powerful bond and how to use simple words to make people open and receptive to your commands.

The good thing about this course is that the creator of the course is a trained hypnotist himself, in fact he is a member of the British society of clinical hypnosis and he has created several books and recorded several audio products. Another good thing about this course is that you can buy it today and start using it today since they have made it available for instant download, this way you won’t have to wait for weeks for it to arrive and in most cases by the time it arrives your interest might have diminished.

The not so good thing is that the course is a little expensive compared to some of the other courses you would find out there but you are getting a lot. Another issue is that there is a lot of material to cover for instance the audios alone are about 18 hours and the manual is around 630 pages long. It is not easy to go through all that and in most cases you would have to do it twice in order to be able to get a full idea of what each section is all about

All things considered, people are already using conversational hypnosis to get people to buy from them and even to get people to fall in love with them. If you are someone who is interested in learning how to use conversations to influence people, I highly recommend you give this course a try. You also have a 60 day money back guarantee to go through the program and see whether it is something you would like

You can find out more about Conversational Hypnosis by visiting http://www.lhypnosis.info

An ancient proverb says, “Everyone looks normal, until you get to know them better.” And the reverse is also true and that is, “Everyone looks abnormal until you get to know them better.” On our planet a very large percentage of people exhibit characteristics of being tough, highly independent, stubborn, impossible to please, restless, perfectionists, etc., and they continue to lead their entire life like that. And everyone would have definitely experienced or heard true stories of such people who drive others nuts through their irrational behaviors. The traditional methods of interaction that works for normal or sweet people just don’t work for them. So how do you deal with such tough people? The simple answer is you cannot in most of the cases. Nor can you fully blame the other person for acting irrational, as there is usually a specific scientific reason for such behavior. And that reason is biological in nature as man is not a uniformly programmed species like animals and birds. As you would have observed animals and birds of a species behave in exactly the same manner. For example, a sheep has been biologically programmed by Mother Nature to be a timid creature, while a tiger has been programmed to be ferocious. You don’t see tigers give up their ferocious nature even if you breed and train them under captivity. And a sheep cannot be trained to become a ferocious creature. But no such rules applies to human beings. Man is not uniform in his behavior and each person is unique in his or her own inborn ways. For example, even in the case of identical twins one can exhibit a rough nature while another can be sweet. This is why it is rarely possible to effectively lead people, unless you use some unconventional methods. Or it is better to gain the specific knowledge that teaches you how to understand why people act cranky. Coming back to the original discussion people who are restless, impatient, irritable, tough, perfectionists, demanding, etc., normally belong to a category called Type-A personality with certain characteristics as explained below. In some cases they can even be a higher version called Type-A+, the kind you see in dictators or extremely tough and dangerous people.

Given below is a layman’s guide to understanding the characteristics of Type A and A+ people.

1. Type-A people suffer from an exaggerated sense of urgency for everything. For example, they hate being late or kept waiting. They periodically experience bouts of anger, restlessness, irritability, impatience and general hostility for everything. Due to this they get angry for simple or even trivial reasons without realizing why.

2. Such people don’t know how and when to relax, and are always in an endless state of internal turmoil, often uncontrolled and unknowingly. Their thinking and thoughts will normally be very intense. They are usually very independent and direct to the point. For example, they don’t take insults or criticism lightly.

3. They will always be on the lookout for perfection (of their definition) in everything they do. Such people demand that perfection even from others and want everyone to rise to their level of thinking and working. They expect other to read their mind and act accordingly thereby making others uncomfortable and often exhibit dictatorial behaviours.

4. Facial calmness is different from internal turmoil. Internally they experience enormous amounts of personal stress that they cannot release easily or share their problems with others. Such people don’t realize their effect on others as they simply do not see the ugly picture they portray to others.

5. Type-A people also experience higher degrees of heart troubles than others.

In fact, Type-A/A+ personality develop right from childhood and this is why we see why many kids are difficult to handle. It is not easy to deal with Type-A/A+ people for the simple reason you could be one yourself. Most people don’t know they are Type-A, unless a doctor or psychologist tells them. It is this lack of knowledge that causes a great deal of grief both ways when dealing with such people. Nevertheless it is important to recognize that a mysterious thing called a Type-A/A+ personality exists in many humans and learn some ways to deal with it effectively.

If you are a Type-A person yourself: The most important knowledge in life is to constantly be aware of your own behaviors. Before criticizing or grumbling about the qualities of others, it is important to test if you belong to a Type-A/A+ personality yourself. For this you need a candid discussion with yourself or perhaps a doctor to see if our have any of the qualities mentioned above. Secondly there are some psychological tests available free on the internet that can determine if you are a Type-A/A+, provided you answer the questions honestly. If you discover you are a Type-A/A+, then you should take immediate steps to create an internal calmness program before you go bust. The change will not happen overnight, but now that you know a beast exists inside you it is time to take charge of your behaviors and not let it run amok. For example, the next time you start getting impatient when waiting for someone or something, you can realize the agitation that is brewing inside you is because you have a Type-A personality. Then you can start calming down and stop getting agitated further. Gradually you will understand why you are stressed, why you are always agitated, why you blow your fuse, why you can’t relax, and so on. Soon for every irrational behavior you exhibit, you can have an immediate self realization gently thumping you on the head to steer you to a calmer behavior. Armed with this knowledge you can now gradually learn to relax, be lazy, cultivate the power to let go, and enjoy life better.

If you are dealing with a Type-A person: Except for a genuine mental illness and certain types of personal problems, it is usually the intense biological forces of Type-A/A+ that make people act cranky for anything and everything. But if you are knowledgeable about the characteristics of a type-A/A+ persons it is easy to understand the irrational behavior of others. So if a person is acting impatient or fussy you now know exactly why they do that. Instead of agitating the person further you can think of ways to help him or her if possible. And you can also educate them to realize they are a Type-A/A+ person so that it enlightens them and others.

There is another personality called a Type-B personality, or a socializer type who has the following characteristics.

1. They are relaxed and have a cool attitude.

2. They are friendly, patient, easy to deal with, and generally content with life.

3. They will be at peace and harmony within themselves, and look at life in a positive way and are not too concerned about losing.

Finally your objective is to gradually become a Type-B person to a large extent in your life, while retaining the Type-A behaviors to areas where it is absolutely necessary. It is not easy to make the jump from A/A+ to B, and may take several months of conscious effort, but it is possible if you take small sustained steps towards it.

Finally we conclude this article with a beautiful quote from Lee Iacocca who says, “I have always found that if I move with seventy-five percent or more of the facts that I usually never regret it. It’s the guys who wait to have everything perfect that drive you crazy.”

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Vincent de Paul, The saint of charitable societies, was born in Pouy, Gascony, France around 1580. His parents Jean de Paul and Bertrande de Moras were farmers who raised four sons and two daughters. Vincent was very intelligent at a young age when his father decided to send him away to the Cordelier Brothers at Dax. He attended the school for four years when he tutored the children of a lawyer. Vincent was able to continue his studies without any expenses to bother his parents with. He then attended the Spanish University of Saragossa to further his education, and later decided to return to France and attend the University of Toulouse where he got the degree of Theology.

Vincent was traveling on a boat when pirates who were menace of all Mediterranean shipping attacked them with arrows after refusing to strike their flag. He was wounded and taken captive to Tunis, Africa and there sold as a slave. This was a major life turning point in his life. He was purchased by a fisherman and then sold again to a Moslem. He grew to enjoy the presence of his slave. Vincent prayed for protection and especially for intercession of the Blessed Virgin Mary. He was terrified of his faith becoming corrupted while in the alien environment.

Continuing standing firm in his faith, Vincent also continued living with his slave owner until he died, when then he had a new owner, the master’s nephew. He yet again was sold to a Mohammedanism who had three wives. Among the wives was a Turkish woman. She often came around the slave while he was at work. She would ask him to sing songs in praise of his heavenly father out of curiosity. The woman would go to her husband and ask what the reasoning was behind turning away from his religion. She eventually made the slave owner return to his original religion while staying with hers. He repented and he and Vincent escaped Africa together. They made their way across the Mediterranean safely and landed eventually near Marseilles in June of 1607. The both of them ventured to Rome and became apart of the Brothers of St. John of God and served in hospitals.

Returning to France, Vincent became the almoner of Queen Marguerite of Valois. He roomed in the same house of a lawyer, who was robbed and convicted him of the crime. Vincent did nothing but deny the charge and quoted, “God knows the truth.” Finally after a long hard six years of slander the actual thief confessed of the crime. This became a testimony of his, proving that patience, silence, and resignation was the only way to defend the innocent.

Later he became a pastor of a neglected and abandoned church. He started a regular worship and brought life back into the run down church. He converted a popular amount of aristocrats from their lifestyles to those of God. While doing this it still didn’t complete the passion he had with helping the suffering. He began to help the sick in everyway he could. The Ladies of Charity helped him in many ways, to collect money and also to help him attend for the sick. This they did very well.

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The word catechism as a variety of meanings however the most accepted one comes from Greek and means to Echo. In this application it is a way to echo or repeat the tenants of the Catholic Church. Prior to the invention of the printing press in the 1400s , the beliefs and tradition of the church were handed down verbally. They asked people to repeat them over and over until they were learned, like an echo. Even in the time of Jesus the teacher taught scriptures by asking again and again for them to be repeated, until they were learned. This was a common way of teaching even before the time of Jesus. But this again invoked the Echo theme.

After the invention of the printing press, it changed the way things could be taught. The beliefs were written down and there was many question and answer books to help with the catechesis process. In the 15th century the influential catechisms of St/ Peter and St. Rober Bellarmine became the mainstay of the catechesis process.

But it wasn’t until the 90s that Vatican II framer, Pope John Paul II recognized something that many overlooked. The young post Vatican II Catholic was severely under catechized and with that in Oct of 1992, he published an apostolic constitution the Deposit of Faith which announced the need for a Catechism of the Catholic Church. The date of his release coincided with the 30th anniversary of the Vatican II. The Catechism of the The Catholic Church goal was to fill in all the missing information that most Catholics no longer know by rote memory. It gave a way for every Catholic family to have a desktop reference for any question their children may ask or any friend of another faith. Many of these persons of other faith still attempt to challenge us and now with the Catechism, any Catholic is armed in answer those questions.

As many look back since Vatican II there is an paradigm shift in the church that moved from self to community. Then Cardinal Karol Wojtyla, who later became known as Pope John Paul II, in the writing of the Vatican II documents said that to help yourself you had to help others and outlined a framework that spoke of the acts of helping others would help one’s self. The other shifts in the church though are what allowed the Pope to say we need a Catechism written that would allow Catholics a reference of their faith. He saw the Catechism as a reference of Catholic Doctrine, which was something that was lacking.

In tandem, the US bishops also set to work writing a comprehensive version for the United States Catholics. The format is dramatically different although the message is the same. In June of 2000 they under took the task of creating a Catechism that is uniquely American. This book was to address the local situation and culture but preserved the unity and fidelity of the faith in its teaching found in Pope John Paul II’s catechism and gave a more readable book format of the desktop reference out of the Vatican.

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How often have we said that:

• Part of me wants to leave my job, but part of me says stay; or

• Part of me wants to sing, but part of me is scared I’ll make a fool of myself.

Neuro linguistic programming NLP is perfect for these kind of inner debates. It offers several techniques to help us negotiate with ourselves and find the perfect answer to these types of dilemmas.

One NLP technique that is widely used for issues of this kind is the so-called Visual Squash. It works as follows:

• The Visual Squash takes the two separate “parts” of us that want two different outcomes

• We represent these parts as two different visual images

• We hold each image in one of our two hands

• We ask one part what its intention is, what it wants for us when it wants us to behave a certain way, for example what do I get by singing? Perhaps pleasure.

• We continue to ask for higher and higher positive intentions for the part. Perhaps the pleasure brings me joy, and the joy brings me peace.

• We then ask the other part for its positive intention for not wanting me to sing. Perhaps it wants to protect me. Protection brings safety and safety brings peace.

• As we continue the exercise we may want to use other NLP techniques such as association, perceptual positions etc to build rapport between the “parts”

• As the parts “negotiate” and reach agreement, we can encourage the hands to move together to form a higher, combined, new “part”

• We can then encourage this new part to be brought back into the body and an inner integration can be achieved.

The problem that sometimes occurs in running the traditional NLP Visual Squash is that the unconscious mind does not fully engage in the process, and no real integration occurs. Those skilled in hypnosis can see this by the way the client’s hands move.

That is why here on our NLP Training in New York, we teach what we call In-Depth NLP. In-Depth NLP uses principles of hypnosis to fully engage the unconscious mind in NLP exercises. We teach In-Depth NLP with a certified hypnosis trainer, to ensure that hypnotic principles are used.

In order to use the Visual Squash exercise in hypnosis, we first induce trance. Given that the Visual Squash places the competing “parts” on opposite hands, and uses hand movement to produce parts integration, it makes sense to use a hypnotic trance induction that utilizes the hypnosis principles of arm catalepsy or arm levitation.

Using arm catalepsy or arm levitation (or both) as the hypnotic induction already transfers control of the arm(s) to the unconscious mind, in hypnosis. It is therefore a small step, once hypnotic trance is induced, to suggest to the unconscious mind that the arms can and will move hypnotically, as integration takes place.

The trained hypnotist can and will see the arms move in a hypnotic manner, quite different from conscious movement, if the conscious mind is fully involved in the technique.

These are the principles of In-Depth NLP; to fully and completely engage the unconscious mind in the change process. By doing so, we generate change that is more compelling than exercises where the conscious mind has more control.

To learn In-Depth NLP take our In-Depth NLP course here in New York.

Shawn Carson is director IPH New York; NLP training in New York, hypnosis, individual coaching, www.nlptrainingnewyork.com 212-714-3574 Melissa Tiers is an NGH certified hypnotist; hypnosis training in New York, hypnosis for weight loss, hypnosis to stop smoking www.melissatiers.com 212-714-3569 In-Depth NLP

When we consider how we want to be as a person, we might say powerful, or exciting, or confident. However these are states that we can enjoy only for a period of time. Nobody feels powerful all the time, or exciting, or confident. If we felt powerful all the time we would likely be exhausted.

So when we think about how we want to be as a person, we come to the realization that our ultimate state is something less energetic. We can be peaceful, or calm, or loving. We can maintain these states over long periods (and ultimately forever, when we achieve enlightenment!). When we have these positive states as part of who we are, we can then layer on power or excitement or confidence when we need it. In other words, we can maintain a certain state of peace and raise that to a high-energy state when we need to.

This article discusses the use of this end state energy in personal change. The concept of end state energy is based on the work of John Overdurf, combined with our own work on In-Depth NLP. In-Depth NLP combines the best of hypnosis with neuro linguistic programming NLP. In-Depth NLP is taught on our NLP training in New York.

So how do we use this concept end state energy? Suppose we have a problem that we want to deal with, say smoking. We have two options for using end state energy described below. The key to using either of these is to engage the unconscious mind in the process. In order to do this we need to put the client (if we are a qualified hypnotist) into trance, or use self-hypnosis on ourselves.

When you have solved the problem how will you be as a person?

So I smoke. I can ask myself: “When I have overcome this habit, how will I be as a person?” or “When this issue is behind me and is no longer something I am concerned about, how will I be then as a person?”

The answer to these questions is likely to be an end state energy. Something like “I’ll be in control”, or “I’ll just be”, or “I’ll be at peace”.

When I have this answer, not just in my head, but so that I can really feel the state, then is the time for me to think about my smoking. As I feel that end state energy I can ask myself: “and as I feel that “peace” and I think about that cigarette, how is it different now”.

What is the positive intention for me smoking?

Alternatively I can take a more measured approach. As I think about smoking I can ask: “What is the positive intention of my smoking? What does it do for me?”

Suppose the answer is that it reduces my stress. I can then ask myself what I get when my stress is reduced. Perhaps the answer comes: “I can enjoy myself more”. And what do I get from being able to enjoy myself more? Perhaps “I’ll be able to be myself”. And then? “I’ll be at peace”.

When we reach the end state in this way, we can then work backwards step by step. I can ask myself: “As I feel that peace, how does that increase my sense of being myself?” And then as I feel that peace: “How does that peace allow me to enjoy myself more?” And as I continue to feel that peace: “How does that peace bring down my stress even more?” And: “How does that peace make me feel about smoking?”

End State

Once we have identified, and entered the end state energy, we will have a wholly different view of the problem that we once had. Whether we use the abbreviated version, of the full version, our frame of reference has changed.

Learn the principles of In-Depth NLP and end state energy on our trainings in New York.

Shawn Carson is director IPH New York; NLP training in New York, hypnosis, individual coaching, www.nlptrainingnewyork.com 212-714-3574 Melissa Tiers is an NGH certified hypnotist; hypnosis training in New York, hypnosis for weight loss, hypnosis to stop smoking www.melissatiers.com 212-714-3569 In-Depth NLP

“Girl, I wouldn’t even put up with that mess.”

You’ve heard it before and most likely have said it on an occasion or two. Well, I have learned that if you live long enough, life will make you recall that statement. Life sure caught up with me and I have had to recall and eat many statements that came out of my mouth in my younger, more carefree days.

Older folks would say, “She’s just wet behind the ears”. I never really understood what that meant. But I was wet all right… more like saturated.

Thinking back, I can remember listening to a girlfriend rant about what her husband did and how stupid she was for staying. Tears rolled down her face as she sobbed uncontrollably. She needed support; her heart was heavy.

“But I Love him” she said while she blew her nose.

All I could think of was, “Love don’t got jack to do with it”

Today, I’ve had to kick myself on a few occasions. Today…I am a different person.

It was a humid, sticky mid August afternoon in 2005…a typical normal, hot August afternoon. But normal it was not. At least it wasn’t for me. My life would never be the same.

Looking at the summons for my husband to appear before the judge for child support was more than I could handle at that time. We, as a team had just gotten caught up on our bills since his return home 7 months prior. To say it was a testing period for me was an understatement. The saying goes; If it’s not one thing it’s another. For me it went like this; If it’s not 5 things it’s 25 things. This was so relevant for my life.

There were days I would just literally scream and cry. It was as if the enemy had just zoomed in on me and I was his target for things I couldn’t even begin to explain. But it was evident: I was chosen to carry many, many crosses. Some crosses didn’t even belong to me. I had to send those back. The ones that were not mine had to get a RETURN TO SENDER stamp.

On this day, I looked at the summons and the name of the child that the support was being requested for. My breath became very short and at that moment, I needed air. It seemed like the room started to spin. My eyes began to fill with tears, my heart felt as if it was going to jump out of my chest. My knees buckled. I had to sit down.

I was all alone.

After I found a chair, my stomach started to turn and dizziness came over me like a rushing wind.

The enemy wanted me to lose my mind.

“How?”“Why?” These were the questions that began to surface in my mind.

It was bad enough to have a baby by a married man but to name the child after him was inexcusable to me. A junior? I would never do that. That to me was just mean. This was beyond my comprehension. I guess because I think differently.

I dialed my Pastor’s phone number. No answer - just voicemail. I dialed my 1st Lady. She answered. She knew who I was from the caller id. It was as if the words would not come out.

“Nicole” Silence. I couldn’t answer. I was in between sobs. “Nicole” The words finally came out but they were muffled. I began to blurt out what just happened.

“My God,” was her first response. “Okay, now let’s get it together,” was her second.

She was not having the pity party thing. For one thing - I was too far away from her (as my church is over 90 miles from my house). Second – she knew my potential. It’s a blessing to have mentors around you that see where you’re going before you see it or believe it. Our Pastors were sent to us for what we have had to endure. Pastors Clifton & Vicki Coward of Agape International Ministries Worldwide in Richmond, Virginia have been that bridge for us.

Pastor Vicki went on to encourage me and give me what the word has promised me.

Then, I called my girlfriend Lena. I remember the day like it was yesterday. Summons in one hand, phone in another, and standing outside on our deck. I was pacing back and forth at this time. She immediately began to pray. She was at Farm Fresh at the time. A few weeks later, she told me she was praying so loudly in the store that she had to go outside before the people put her out. (LOL)

For over a year I would not talk about it. I couldn’t. I would literally get sick just thinking about it. The pain was so deep…it was like an open wound that would try to close but couldn’t. As soon as I thought I was all healed, something would happen and those feelings would resurface and the tears would start flowing. Even my heart would begin the racing all over again. Panic and anxiety, were the twins out to get me. Sometimes I would think, “This is just too much for me to handle.” But the word of God says he would not put more on me than I can bear.

The child support was a subject by itself. Our household went without on many occasions because of the child support. At times, I thought it was so unfair. My children went without. That by itself really bothered me. But I would never voice it aloud. We as wives have the power to build up or tear down. It’s our choice. I knew what it was when I accepted my husband back.

This is a decision I made. No gun was put to my head. Don’t get me wrong. My flesh wanted to lash out. My flesh wanted to go up one side of him and down the other. I wanted to point fingers, accuse and blame. But my spirit would say, “BE STILL”.

One of my very favorite scriptures is Isaiah 61:7 – You shall have double for your shame”.

I quoted that scripture over and over again. The word, the peace of God and my Pastors – are what kept me during that period in my life.

Today, the little boy is a part of our family. He and our baby girl are just a year apart in age but you would think they are twins. They absolutely adore each other. I run around the house, play hide and go seek, and act goofy with him just like I do with my own. And he is the cutest little button. (He looks just like my husband).

By sharing this part of my life, my hope is to open a door for women who have had to endure similar circumstances. If your husband has had a child out of wedlock while married to you, please contact me. I want you to know that you are not alone. I would like to start a support group, especially for women who are being faced with this. The easy part is leaving. It’s harder to stay and endure.

Nicole Cleveland is founder of Breathe Again Magazine Online. She is on a mission to empower, encourage and motivate women by posting real life articles of women overcoming adversity. Visit her website at www.BreatheAgainMagazine.com.

We all know the feeling, something happens and suddenly we get that old familiar feeling. Maybe we remember our mother or father shouting at us, or a scene from the schoolyard. Whatever it is, something triggered a feeling from our past.

So what can we do to change this? One thing is to use a technique call reimprinting. Reimprinting is a technique used in hypnosis and in neuro linguistic programming NLP for changing the way we relate to our past.

This technique should not be used on traumatic memories without the guidance of a qualified professional.

Reimprinting depends upon the fact that our unconscious mind cannot tell the difference between a memory and an intense visualization. By returning to a memory and re-experiencing it in a new way, we can change the way we feel about it. By picking a memory from childhood say, we can make a significant difference in the way we view our entire life.

The technique that follows is from In-Depth NLP. In-Depth NLP uses NLP techniques but utilizing deep hypnotic principles to fully engage the unconscious mind in change. In-Depth NLP is taught here at our center in New York.

When a memory from the past, particularly from childhood, is triggered in a negative way, we can go back and change how we feel about it as follows:

• Remember the memory as a visual scene. Imagine you see the scene down on the floor across the room in front of you, as if looking at a diorama.

• See the younger you in the scene.

• Notice who is in the scene other than the younger you.

• Notice what is happening.

• As you observe the younger you, notice what skills or resources that you have now, that had the younger you had them, the situation would have been different.

• Gift those resources to the younger you in whichever way seems best. Notice how the scene is different as the younger you enjoys those resources.

• Now one by one, look at the other characters in the scene, perhaps your parents, teachers, school-friends or whoever. Say it is a teacher.

• As you observe this teacher, notice what skills or resources that you have now, that had that teacher had them, would have made things different. Gift those resources to that teacher in whatever way seems best. Notice how the scene changes again.

• Do this gifting of resources to all the characters in the scene. Notice how the scene changes each time.

• When the scene is just the way you want, replay it again.

• Now, if you wish, step back into the scene and feel what it is like in its new form. Note that you should not do this if the scene was traumatic without expert help.

The result of this procedure is that we create a new “memory” where the younger self had the skills and resources they needed to deal with the situation. Although we know what “actually” happened, our unconscious mind will be attracted to the new positive “memory” and will begin to build current experience and reality using this new “memory”.

As a result of this work, you may find your feelings and behavior changing in the present, now.

Reimprinting is taught on our In-Depth NLP courses here in New York.

Shawn Carson is director IPH New York; NLP training in New York, hypnosis, individual coaching, www.nlptrainingnewyork.com 212-714-3574 Melissa Tiers is an NGH certified hypnotist; hypnosis training in New York, hypnosis for weight loss, hypnosis to stop smoking www.melissatiers.com 212-714-3569 In-Depth NLP

I thought I would write about the subject of Love from Lester’s viewpoint. He often said that Love was one of the most often used but misunderstood words in human experience. What Love brings to mind for most of us is that first kiss with our high school sweetheart, or meeting our spouse-to-be for the first time.

When we “fall in Love” there is a real chemical cocktail that is uncorked, poured into our blood, and we feel high, giddy , and for a time, the world is a blissful place. We see our beloved bathed in Love-colored hues, and he/she is perfect. I’ve often thought if they could put this into a pill, we’d have a drug problem of horrendous proportions!

Lester said that human Love is totally different from the way a Master defines Love, which is the real Love of Beingness/God. He said that human Love is a very limited thing. “You do this for me, and I will Love you.” I, in turn will do that for you, and you will Love me. In Latin, we use the term :Quid Pro Quo, or “this for that”.

There is the law of mutuality always running, and this so called Love due is partly a type of human arrangement for some kind of desired result. It could be a planned family, a promising business future, or a myriad of other lustful fantasies. There may or may not work out, and even if they do, there is no guarantee that Love, Inc. will survive.

After all, the reminder of that drug is always on our minds, and that is why we hear about so much infidelity and affairs. The same person who incited that cocktail just can’t do it any more. Sound familiar? On to what Lester had to say.

At a New York City impromptu short lecture Lester gave, he made this powerful statement, “LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, and you’ll you be so happy…and healthy…and prosperous!” How could that be? The secret lies in Lester’s definition of Love. “Love is total selflessness.” Wanting for the other one what he/she wants for themselves (not what we want).

Love is someone knowing that “I AM YOU.” Those reading this who are Sedona Method grads will remember that on the feeling chart, Love is very high, in ACCEPTANCE, right below total PEACE.

So, we need to query ourselves, “Am I really loving?” Probably not, most of the time. When we Love our pets or someone’s newborn infant, we feel this Love. Lester said that Love is Giving, with no thought of Receiving, wanting nothing from the other one. Difficult? Not really, according to Lester. He said, “Loving people is the easiest thing to do.”

Then why does it seem so hard to Love people? How many of you have heard others say, “If only people were as easy to Love as dogs.”

The reason for that is simple. We don’t want Love from them, just for them to be there when we get home, wag their tails or purr, take walks with us, etc., and Love us for what we are, not what we are not. They don’t remember our scolding yesterday, or that we forgot their favorite cookies. They exist in the NOW moment.

We humans have a hard time loving people because we fear rejection. We put up walls around ourselves to protect us from any more hurt and to buffer the pain we are sure is to come. We want Love instead of feeling safe to give Love. Lester said “Wanting equates to not having.” So when we want Love, we create the opposite, or rejection.

Lester was often heard to say, “Every feeling is a non-Love feeling.” Fear, Pride, Grief, Apathy, etc. are all expressions of non-Love. So when we release the Wanting Love program, it takes thousands of non–Love feelings with it! There resides the incredible power of the Sedona Method (Release Technique).

Lester told me if I became totally loving by using his technique, all my goals would just drop in by a mere effortless thought. Why? Because it is such a high state, you are in tune with the Whole Universe, which is ALL LOVING.

When the mind is quiet with no thoughts and feelings, all the power of one’s Self is available, untethered by the baggage of the past (the programs). The Big 3 Master Programs are released with the Sedona Method Release Technique Course.

Getting back to Lester’s statement at the lecture, if we would Love all the time, we would achieve a very successful and happy life. Loving totally would amazingly give us all the knowledge we seek as well. So what keeps us from doing this? Just holding on to non-Love feelings we think will protect us, but in fact cause us trouble.

The very fear of rejection causes us to be rejected. Anger at him/her for something said causes us to create the same thing over again with someone else! Also, because Love is such a high state, it automatically will bring up all the AGFLAP, or non-Love feelings, just as wording a goal in a high energy.

Once while in Sedona for an intensive, I made a goal, “I decide to Love people no matter what.” It stirred me up so badly I became violently ill and threw up for days. Lester nearly yelled at me, “Why did you stop releasing? You could have gone free!” We don’t like the insecure or rejected feelings, so we slow our progress down.

If you remember a time you were truly happy, you were most likely feeling very loving. Is it true? Maybe you were helping in a selfless way, or maybe giving a gift to someone you really wanted to make happy. You might have been teaching a child to ride a bike the first time or enjoying a video game with him.

A good exercise is to go back and find times when you were happy and investigate with the Method what got in the way. Or during the day, when someone does something to bother you, see if you can release and Love them anyway. You will find yourself lighter and happier, freer and freer.

Remember as Lester said, “LOVE LOVE LOVE, and you’ll be so happy….and healthy…and prosperous!!!”

You can read part two of this article at http://www.lesterssedonakiss.info
Stephen Seretan is the author of “Lester and Me” available from http://www.lesterandme.com & http://www.goingfree.org The latest Sedona Retreat Information is available at http://www.programfreenow.info Thanks for reading.

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6. Self Improvement/ Personal Growth

Simply do it. Think you don’t need it or can’t get yourself do it, forget about it your done. Every highly successful person knows this is the essential piece. Get a cardboard box and stick every positive growth program that you can get your hands on and put it in your car. If you do nothing else do this, get involved in a program and do the steps. I don’t care if you this system or another one that works- but you MUST put the program into action. So many people listen to the information but never apply what they learn. You have to understand the way you have been doing things got you where are today. If where you are today is not where you want to be, then you have to change the way you approach things. All highly successful people engage themselves on a continuous growth program. They understand then need for growth, mentors, and coaching. Do you have a mentor, personal coach, or an accountability partner? Find one, it will be one of the greatest things you will ever do for yourself. Listen to programs daily, read positive uplifting books- at least 15 minutes a day, work on the visualizations that we talked about, keep guard that you speak and think positive thoughts. Believe and act like your already at the success level you seek!

7. Persistence

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Conclusions

There is a time for sowing and a time for reaping, they both have a season. Your life today is the residual effect of the things you sowed to this point. Our present life is always a reflection of what decisions we made and what actions we took. This is why I keep encouraging you to keep changing, to keep growing. If your not in the place that you want to be, then you have to, you absolutely must change to get different results. You just can not keep doing the same things and expect different results. I don’t know why it took me so long to put this into action. I read it, I was taught it, I understood it intellectually, but I was very slow putting it into action. and it held me back for years. When I finally began to get a handle on this part of my life, everything began to change and I know it will for you. It does not matter which system you use, as long as it works, but the secret is that you must apply it to your life. Make it a daily habit, ingrain it so deep that it automatically happens as part of your life. We reap the rewards of our habits, great habits produce great results, weak habits produce weak results. Lack of self discipline, is one of if not the greatest reason why most people fail. Unfortunately so many people in this country look at self discipline as a negative thing, it is just the opposite. Learn to conquer it, and it is the great liberator. Very simple, learn to master the principles that successful people have and success will find you. True wealth is learning to master life on all levels, so work on the whole picture, the whole self being. The world needs people like you to carry on and help those who are still struggling. I could never be where I am if it was not for a few people who unselfishly reached out their hand and helped me. I only pray that I was able to stir up a little something inside you, thank you for allowing me the opportunity to spend some time and share a little of myself.

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